How to help somebody who is grieving

Chris Broome – Chartered Financial Planner

One of the toughest parts of life is losing somebody you love.

It’s equally tough to watch someone you care for go through such a loss.

Grief is a natural and normal response to loss, and everyone grieves differently.

Having been on all sides of this, including supporting my clients, here are a few ways I found which can help someone who is grieving:


1.  Be present

Simply being present and available to listen and offer support can be the most helpful thing you can do.

2.   Be patient

Grief is a process and can take time, be patient and understand that the person may have good and bad days.

3.  Listen actively

Listen actively and avoid giving unsolicited advice or trying to fix the person’s problems. Allow them to express their feelings without interruption.

4.  Help with practical tasks

Offer to help with practical tasks such as running errands, making meals, or taking care of children.

5.  Help with emotional support

Offer emotional support and encouragement, and remind them that it is normal to feel a wide range of emotions.

6.  Help with self-care

Encourage the person to take care of themselves, and offer to help with self-care activities such as going for a walk or getting a massage.

7.   Keep in touch

Keep in touch with the person, even if they don’t always want to talk. Send a message, make a phone call or send a card.

8.   Help find resources

Help the person find resources, such as grief support groups, counseling or therapy, if they are interested.

9.  Be mindful of anniversaries and special days

Be mindful that anniversaries and special days can be especially difficult, and offer support during these times.

It’s important to remember that grief is a unique and personal experience.

It’s important to respect the person’s needs and boundaries during this time.

But its also ok to simply be present with them – sometimes just being, and not speaking, will be enough

I hope this helps.